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Should I date this guy?
Warning, this is going to be long. :)
I'm 16 and he's 17 and we've basically known each other for about a year or so.
Last year, I had a crush on him which lasted for quite a few months, but at the time I felt that realistically nothing could happen between us because
a.) we had completely different circle of friends
b.) he was "popular" if you like, and I was average in social terms
c.) and to be brutally honest, I didn't know him that well
So I toughed up and tried to forget about him and managed to, just about.
But then suddenly 2 weeks ago all of that changed when we started talking. I felt we just clicked, and I was surprised because I hadn't actually thought we would get along before because I thought we were just too different. Since then we have just met each other from time to time and have talked some more, with light flirting here and there. Now, you may be asking, so what's the bloody problem, just go out with him?!
The problem is this. He hasn't really had a serious relationship with anyone before, apart from making out with a couple of girls, because either he just hasn't found someone like that or he's scared of committing. We both have pretty busy lives, and so we both wouldn't have days and days of just us together, plus I like to have a balance and hang out with my friends as well. My friend (who didn't know I liked him) said we would make a "quirky couple". I don't want to be led on and then just dropped, if he just wants that he can find some other girl. It's hard to explain, but I want to know him as a person, but I don't know if he will let me in. I don't know if he's let anyone in. I know this is strange, but if you listen to the Beatles song Nowhere Man, then you will understand. He's popular but he has this outer exterior which he puts on. Girls usually just fall for his good looks and charm, but I'm more interested in who he actually is because I have a feeling he is deep down a good guy. There have been moments during conversation where I feel that there's more to him than he lets on. That's my instinct, and you know what they say about following your instincts. So what do you think? Please listen to the song before you answer, and if you can, give me some tips on how to get to know him for who he is. Instead of just flirting and getting a snog, if you see what I mean.
Thank you!
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